Dealing with Loss

Life or Death

Dealing with Loss

 

There are different types of loss – loss of jewellery, loss of friendship, loss of a business deal, loss of your home, or loss of a relationship. Then there is loss through death which may be sudden, gradual, unexpected and expected.  Even if expected the grief is unbearable as the loss rips your heart out and you feel yourself howling aloud or silently in your Soul.  Death is a very brutal friend as it waves its Sword of Death in a final sweep that severs the lifeline and the life of the person or animal.  Death can be from dis-ease, accident, suicide, war, natural disaster, house fire, stormy sea, wind, land slides, thunder and lightening, etc. 

Death brings very painful challenges and feelings of overwhelm to those left alive. You grieve the lost of your child, the loss of your dog, the loss of your fish.  You journey to the dark recess of your soul and your sit in the Underground of pain, and slip into the underworld of extreme darkness and despair.  We feel alone, isolated, abandoned, lonely. How do we carry on when we feel all is lost? We change our paradigm.

The departed animal or person has simply swapped ‘bodies’ and moved from the one you can see to the one you cannot see. You can still feel them in your heart and you may even feel them around you. For example you may feel a breeze on your neck, you may see a flash of light, you may smell a beautiful fragrance, and you may feel you arms are being touched. There is no one there physically, put you know someone is there with you. The departed are communicating with us from a higher realm of consciousness, offering comfort, support and insights. 

Did you know that loss can help improve your psychic powers? and help you heal your pain? Did you know that the pain you feel could be the pain from deep before this lifetime?  One of the greatest way to connect with the other side is to have a crystal skull.  The first crystal skull I bought coincided with the death of my father and my baby in my tummy, which I buried in the ground.  I never bought a crystal skull after that, for a while!  For me, the most painful loss has been loss of a living person.

Crystals give comfort in times of loss and have been known to help with communication with the other side. Red Jasper is very good for grounding and releasing the pain of loss. Amethyst encourages communication with the departed Soul. Black Jet cleans and protects you from the negative effects and fundamental darkness you may experience. Snowy Quartz creates a clear pathway of communication while Howlite cries for you.

Grief can take a day, a week, a month, a year or years.  It has its own personal rhythm for each person. No one size fits all. I cried everyday for 10 years and no one knew. I was not able to talk about it for years.  Luckily only in the first three months was I ever aggressive to my friends who bought my candles!!! Charming. Death and Grieving changes your personality.  There is a whole new tree of emotions and behaviours which comes with its own thinking and communication pattern. Mine was awesome!!!! hahahaha Not funny.

Watching a parent deteriorate is a form of Loss – deep loss as you adjust to the parent becoming a ‘child’ again, loosing the faculty of the mind with the dis-ease of dementia, Alzheimer’s or Parkinson’s.  Both the elder and the children are affected by the loss. There is a denial or refusal to accept it is happening in the family. There is the stigma. This loss is like a death too. An aspect of a person is dying and no longer returning e.g. lack of memory, parent accusing the children of stealing as unreasonable suspicious arise from nowhere, hallucinations, etc.

A good crystal to help, I find, is a palm crystal, known as a worry crystal. You can hold it in your hands and rob it with your thumb; and rob all your anxiety or worry into the palm crystal asking it to taken away whatever negative emotion you are feeling. Sometimes the simple act of holding something in your hand is a comforter and a protector, like you are not alone. Flowers always cheer a room up, so does sweet smelling frankincense and lavender.

The Rite of Passage, the Journey to the Dark Recess of your Soul, is a long and arduous journey. It is not an easy one to bear. Be mindful.  Death is experienced by both the living and the dead! Yes there is sadness on both parts, but the departed Soul feels free to move on to the Light and to the next incarnation or wherever it is going – depending on one’s belief.  What is your belief? 

So the question I ask you is, Who suffers most? The Living or the Dead?  Is Death for the Living or is it for the Dead?  Living on Earth we all have to go through some loss and we ourselves will one day die.  THAT IS THE ONLY CONSTANT THING ABOUT LIFE ON EARTH. WE ALL WILL DIE AT SOME POINT IN TIME. Do we journey towards Death or does Death journey towards Us?

The New Moon is a time of New Beginnings. The Dead have a new beginning. The Living have a new beginning and how they choose to live with the Death of a loved one is a choice we all one day have to make.  How will you re-birth yourself with the loss of your loved one?

There are many ways to deal with grief and loss.  Time, they say heals everything.  Some would agree with that and some would not. You see not everyone deals with grief in the same way. It can break up a couple, a marriage, a family or a business.  It can bring people together but I find this can be a challenge as people grief differently. Some go dancing and drinking. Others binge. Some go quiet and do not talk or express their feelings. Some simply bury themselves into their jobs and keep themselves busy – being too busy to grieve.  Some lock people and emotions out of their lives. Some take to obsessive addictive behaviour like taking drugs and drinking becoming drug addicts or drunks.

When you had to go through loss or grief, how did you deal with it? Did you go for therapy? Did you do exercise e.g. jog, yoga, dance classes?  Did you talk to a counsellor or to your friends – going on and on and on and on about the experience?  Did you start blaming everyone but yourself? Did you take any responsibility for your loss or pain? Did you reflect on life and death? Did you reflect on loss of an object vs. loss of a life?  Was there any difference in the grieving for you?

Sometimes we carry negative emotions such as guilt, shame, blame and anger as a badge of honour. We wear it with pride and keep regurgitating our pain and our  loss. We are stuck in the Wheel of Life – the wheel is moving on the same spot – like a record repeating itself. We may or may not realise it – but is like we are moving and then stop and we are back to where we started.  Like time keeps repeating itself and then like time stops. Is Death a loss of innocence then?

Grief and Loss are truly humane feelings that can consume us if we do not balance our emotions.  There are many ways to heal your loss and grief.  You can go have a massage, tap the pain out of your muscles with EFT, hold a crystal to help you, do mediations to relax and soothe your mind, listen to music that lifts your Spirit, light a candle and pray; as well as, book a session with me, Toks Coker, to help and support your process to create a quantum leap in your healing process.

HOMEWORK

The Tree of Life and the Tree of Death are two different types of Tress with different emotions and feelings – yet can be the same….

  1. If you had to draw your Tree of Death what words would be on the leaves of the Tree of Death and Loss?
  2. If you had to draw your Tree of Life what words would be on the leaves of the Tree of Life and Living?
  3. What differences and similarities do you notice in both drawings?
  4. How do these pictures make you feel? What emotions do they stir up?
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New Moon in Taurus 6 May 2016

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So many practical person insights and observation leading up to the New Moon and continuing after this glorious New Moon in Taurus. For me it feels like a Full Moon – the emotions coming out of me are quiet intense.  This New Moon in Taurus pulls on us to look at how are emotions are affecting our practical applications in life and how we can be empowered by the practical actions we take to align ourselves to our goals, desires, values, desires, wishes and worth.  We will be in the perfect energy of the New Moon in London during our meditation.  The New Moon is 8.30pm London time.  We start our gathering at 7pm so expect a wonderful gathering of downloads and insights.

Gift with a bowNew Moon & Sun in Taurus       Gift with a bowElement – Earth        Gift with a bowVenue – Click here:  Venue     Gift with a bowStart Time – 7pm                     Gift with a bowDate – 6 May 201      Gift with a bow20:30 BST (8:30pm) London

Energy of Past

So many anniversaries leading up to the New Moon, which did you celebrate? Bank Holiday? Soka Gakkai Day?  Ascension Day? Yom HaShoah? Isra & M’raj? Beltane? 

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Energy of Change

So much happening in daily life.  What did you experience on a sacred level? A Death?  A Funeral? A Clearing? A Gifting?  A Birthing?  A Life?  Healing? Growing?

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Energy of Now

What are you hoping for? Knowing the Practical Steps to Take?  A Clear Vision?  A Decisive Action?  A Change in Karma?  A Grounding?  A recognition? A Gift?

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 As we gather for this alchemical change within us we gather in reverence, in peace and in sacredness.  We allow the healing, the questioning, the doubt, the little small voice, the fear, the limiting beliefs and the ego.  We do so because we know that this is a passing phase. We continue through the process and the journey and we know we will arrive at a wonderful space celebrating the greatness of us.  What will we manifest in the next two weeks leading to the wonderful Full Moon on 21 May.  Make sure you are there to give thanks for your life and your abundance.  Start by attending todays New Moon and planting your seed of greatness.

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What this Energy of Now prepares us for:

    1. Money  The need to see your finances in a whole new way. The  need to look at the issues of money in your life.
    2. Choice  The need to make a choice.
    3. Change  The need to make a change that leads to you being more happy.
    4. Chance and Change  The need to give yourself a chance by giving yourself a change.  The need to give yourself a change by giving yourself a chance.  The need to do different things and to find yourself doing things you thought you could never do.
    5. Health  The need to look at your health habits.
    6. Heath Body  The need to listen to your body.  What is your insight telling you?  What is your body telling You?  Are you eating your feelings?  Are you breaking ‘rules’ you make e.g. I will not eat anymore from 6pm.  This allows your body to digest food.  You want to rest your digestive system at night so it can work while you sleep. The body needs to be loved and nurture.  What does the body want?  The better you feel the more you can do for your self and your business.
    7. CHARLIEHealth Mind   The need to look at the way you think. What kind of view do you have in your life?  Is it a small view or a big view of life.  Real life is not TV.  Real life changes slowly, quickly or not at all. You may be living a religious life that no longer applies.  Your mind may be limiting your abundance and your wanting.
    8. Health Spirit The need to take time out and go inside. Set yourself free and you will move and flow higher.  The need to feed and nourish yourself like the soils needs water and the sun to bloom flowers.  Let this meditation be a gathering for your own growth – your future growth and your now growth.
    9. Motive  The need to have a motive that moves you to be more.  Be more than you thought possible.
    10. Opportunities  The need to look at the opportunities around your life. To be mindful and aware.  To keep your eyes open.
    11. Rooting   The need to look at the rooting of your life. To really realise what you are good at.
    12. Initiation  The need to realise the initiation of your life. To come to a sacred space to have your own personal initiation that is yours and only yours.
    13. Sacred Gathering  The need to realise that in a sacred gathering we receive healing, insight, comradeship and support.  If you do not turn up you do not experience this wonderful community of supportive people on their spiritual journey.  The Alchemical Moon Gatherings hold really powerful personal, spiritual and business focus for you and for everyone.  Without petrol a car cannot move.  With petrol it moves. They help you fuel your car with petrol.
    14. Renew & Review  The need to really renew and review your life.
    15. Reconnect  The need to reconnect with yourself on a deep level.
    16. Self-Sabotage  The need to kill / remove / bury aspects of yourself that sabotage you. The need to win through your obstacles you created for yourself through your self limiting decisions and self sabotage.
    17. Communication  The need to look at your communication with yourself.  The need to look at your communication with others and how you interact together.
    18. Anger  The need to look at all aspects of your anger that make you do things you do not want to do.
    19. PEACELife  The need to look at what grips your life.
    20. Decision  The need to back up / reverse / hold off your life.
    21. Balance  The need to look at balancing your life so you feel stable and secure.
    22. The need to look at issues of self respect in your life.  Who is respecting you?  Who is not respecting you?  Who are you respecting?  Who are you not respecting?
    23. Emotions   The need to look at emotions that suddenly erupt in your life.  Emotions that make you feel less than you are.  Emotions that make you feel that you are being served up on a plate.
    24. Value  The need to value our worth.  Better to walk alone that to walk with people who do not value you or respect you.
    25. Story  The need to know your story you tell yourself and look at the practical implications your story has in your life and others.
    26. Issues  The need to look at your issues of jealousy and competition where you pretend to like someone but you want to control everything and undermine their achievements.
    27. Win Win   The need to want to win and to win.
    28. New Boundaries  The need to define and update your new boundaries that support your new goals and positive characteristic you are developing.  The need to establish new boundaries as you grown and change in your own personal  process. What are your new boundaries you have to set to accommodate who you are going to be?  What do you have to let go of?
    29. Belief  The need to look at your belief system about want you want in your life and mostly your deeply rooted self belief that may be holding you back.
    30. liesLies  The need to look at issues of lies in your life. The need to make sure you are not living a lie or communicating a lie to yourself and others. Be mindful of the story you tell yourself and others.  Perhaps those stories do  not apply anymore. Time to bury them like you would a seed or a coffin.
    31. Kneel   The need to kneel before Mother Earth and Father Sky and ask for your New Moon Wishes – your goals, your vision goals and your wish list. Stop wasting time on things that do not matter and take you away from your goal or your vision or the  purpose of why you are here or the relationship you have or the relationship you want.
    32. Coming Home to Self  The need to come back to yourself and be at home with yourself.  This grounds you back to your own true energy and spirit.  Sometimes coming back home to yourself involves you tapping into your ancient wisdom, your ancient past and re-member-ring and calling back your body home to you.  This coming home to yourself enables more wisdom to live day to day in this stressful world and enjoy every moment of living here.  You see the sacred in everything and in everyone.
    33. Giving and Receiving  The need to look at your giving and receiving from others.  Do you feel used and abused? Do you feel taken for granted?  Do you find that you are helping others and the people you help are not helping you now you need help?
    34. Charlie rescues the umbrella!!!Defining Moments  What are the new defining moments with this New Moon?  A defining moment is a moment you find yourself.  Like the FBI you have done your work and investigation and found yourself. This New Moon starts the process for us. FINDING YOURSELF.
    35. Stand Alone   The need to sometimes stand alone rather than stand with people who do not value you or respect you.
    36. Explore Self  The need to explore yourself with a new eye and see the sacred in each and every moment.  Exploring the sacredness of yourself is an on-going process. It never stops.  It is always evolving and moving.
    37. Belief  The need to believe in yourself and believe you are worth it and you will get what you want and you will achieve and you will be abundance and you will have great health and longevity. What is your truth?
    38. Practical Focus  The need to work practically and focused to get what you want.  The need to cultivate your new learning which stated on the last Full Moon with your vision board.
    39. The need to burst forth with newness and depth in your relationships and your life.
    40. Spirit   The need to connect to the Divine Source Energy and come back home to sacred self.  We all get so busy with our stressful busy lives we find it hard to take time for ourselves.  We need to gather and connect with our Soul Family – the Legions of Light – the Moon Alchemists to inspire more positive empowering energy.
    41. Animal Totem:  Bull  The need to connect to the animal totem of the Bull and call forth its energy OPEN TO MOREof power, stability, strength, structure, achievement and production.  The majestic bull finishes things.  It stands proud and confident.  Not intrusive, it is competitive and aggressive if pushed. The Bull can play the game of life and win in the game of life.  The Bull is good at it. Be mindful that you may clash head to head with this energy and that is the last thing you want, but something is going to move you to do so.  Be mindful of the energy of the Bull beside you.
    42. Align  The need to look at things that align to us and things that do not align to us. By doing this we connect to our practical intuition and our ability to see more clearly what we thought we had seen.
    43. Stuck  The need to look at areas of being stuck in our lives. Areas we feel we are stuck and not moving forward.  Areas we feel we are moving hackwork.  It is important to align yourself and pull yourself up and out of the darkness in your life, your mind, you body, your soul and your spirit.
    44. Planets   The need to be aware that five planets are retrograde – Mercury, Mars, Jupiter (opportunity, abundance, plenty, expansion, prosperity) Saturn and Pluto (power and transformation).  Sun, Moon, Mercury and Venus are in Taurus. Taurus is an Earth sign.  Jupiter is in Virgo making this a GRAND EARTH TRINE.  This is a slow time process.  So a time for introspection, reviewing, reflection, pondering, inward looking and observation. We make decisions and take action ONLY after this deep reflection, reviewing, pondering and inward looking.  How are you doing?  What is the situation?  Is it working or not?  What needs to be fixed, repaired,  reworked or thrown away?  I love this New Moon in Taurus.  It is not an easy moon – it bares itself for us to see quiet clearly that we are going nowhere until we look at our real life situation in a practical, realistic and honest way.

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To be Channelled LIVE by Toks Beverley Coker

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ECLIPSE Full Moon in Libra 23 March 2016

ECLIPSE Full Moon in Libra 23 March 2016

Red heartFull Moon in Libra – Sun in Aries      Red heartPink Moon       Red heartActual Time: 12:02 BST (12:02pm) London 

  Red heartElement – Air/Fire    Red heartPENUMBRAL LUNAR ECLIPSE in Asia, Australia, Pacific, Western Americas 

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Energy of Now: Eclipse Full Moon in Libra and Sun in Aries

gi brideBalance  One of the hardest things in life is to balance your Fire Energy (Aries) with your Air Energy (Libra).  Libra wants to balance and Aries wants to lead.  With the pushy energy of Aries it is really hard to find balance, the greatest need in Libra.  Finding it hard to balance your thinking with your practical is a challenge around this time.  Be extra cautious and patient with yourself and others.

Inner and Outer Challenges So you decide that you want to balance things and you want to lead at the same time.  And sometimes you realise that you cannot balance and lead at the same time.  You stress yourself out as you try to balance and lead your life.  Then you find that, in your interactions with others, as you try to balance and lead, there is friction.  The other does not think you can lead and wants to lead.  You think thy cannot lead and you should lead.  Sometimes the desire to lead and balance at the same time can lead to stress, lack of trust, shouting, as well as, writing texts and emails that do not convey what your heart really seeks.  The Energy of Libra seeks balance, which is peace of mind.  The Energy of Aries confronts and wants to argue and shout and rant.  What you find ensuing is dis-cord, misunderstanding, annoyance, impatience, separation, the very things you do not want and the situations you do not crave for.

animal totem and human totemAnimal Totems  This unfolding in your life is powerful magic.  You can work with the Energy of the Horse or the Crow.  Both have great power to move things.  Both have great magic that transforms and helps you in your transition/s as you transform.  Both animal totems help with releasing and renewing. Both initiate endings and beginnings which can be quick or slow.  I believe this energy is quite fast and it happens without giving your any warning or time to prepare.

Spring   This is the beginning of Spring.  The uprooting and chaos has led to a tiny bud coming out of the Earth.  This is Spring Time.  This is the celebration of the New with the clearing of the Old and the blooming manifestation of your successes.

Past Energy  You can read up on the previous energy by clicking on: 2015 Full Moon in Libra.

Time Between Eclipses The Time Between Eclipses is a time of conflict and breakups.  The need to be balanced and calm is a a real challenge around this time. You hear someone say something, and, you know you should not say anything; but something ‘grips’ you, and suddenly your ego goes into play, and you say, and do something, that you thought would be helpful and supportive; only to have the very person you are trying to help (from your ego) turn on you.  What ensures is back biting, psychic attack, verbal attack, nastiness and bitterness.

thinkingFamily Karma  The Time Between Eclipses brings with it a lot of family karma, family issues, family fights and family challenges.  It also breeds breakups and separation.  This family karma seeps into every area of your life.  You may find yourself breaking up; and repeating a pattern of a member of your family.  You may suddenly realise you have a trait you do  not like and you want to change.  You are facing challenges in your family you do not want to look at. You feel tired, drained, exhausted and exasperated. Your fall ill. You are not balanced.  You give up. You give in. You let go.

Change  Change is the name of the game with this Eclipse – it invites in gentle change in an aggressive way!  So what am I saying?  It invites in aggression even when you are gentle!  Now that is the catch.  How do you maintain your cool and balance when someone is shouting at you?  I breath in and go within and find the still calm space within me that grows lovely flowers and has lovely green rich grass. What do you do?  Please do not tell me you grab the neck of the person! 

What is the Magic?  The magic is staying calm no matter what.  The magic is watching your behaviour as well as the others around you. The magic is recognising your patterns and there’s.  The magic is not being drawn into the drama – yours or there’s. The magic is staying grounded and focused like the horse.  The magic is removing yourself form the unhealthy situation like the Crow.  Now this does not mean you are weak.  It means you are like the Porcupine who pretends to play dead to fool it’s enemy and the runs away when the energy goes.  Now that is smart.

researchThe Blossoming  This Full Moon asks us to blossom our victories no matter how small.  My victory was creating one minute videos and sharing them on my YouTube channel.  I felt so proud.  It was one of the things I had said I wanted to do and with all the chaos around me I suddenly found this inner stillness that guided me to produce and deliver four one minute talks.  I am celebrating my little small big win. I have posted 4 short one minute videos on YouTube. They are: Time Between Eclipses, Impossible Moments, the Colour Red, Numerology Workshops.  It is the first time I have done this myself and I am very proud of myself. It is one of my lovely achievements I am celebrating this Full Moon. What will you be celebrating this Full Moon?  Come celebrate with me tonight. It would be so good to have you with me.

Seeing  This Eclipse is a time to see what needs to be seen.  It is a time to reveal what has been hidden.  It is a time of contrasts. It is a time of endings and beginnings. It is a time of openings and closing.  It is a time of hunger and fullness.  It is a time of consciously being aware and consciously being unaware. It is a time of unconsciously being aware and unconsciously being unaware.  Did that confuse you?  It did me for a while.  This Eclipse does not suffer fools. Period.  It is like it ‘throws up’.  It is like it creates an upheaval and dis-comfort both internally and externally.

Choices  I have found this Energy to be slow and then fast. It does not allow me to make choices or decisions easily. It seems to stall me and then after a while give me an answer.  Also the Energy seems to be blocking a way of thinking.  This is not surprising as we are in the Vortex of an Eclipse and we have been journeying between two Eclipses.  This is why all this is extremely overwhelming and powerful at the same time.

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Spring Equinox 2016

Spring Equinox is about balancing good and evil, light and dark, up and down.  It is a time to put a SPRING in your step and clean your house.  Tidy up your home, your environment, your accounts, your life. I cleansed my home as we had a new kitchen put in.  The dust was simply amazing. It took days to clean the flat.

Back to work – I have taken the write up on the Spring Equinox from two of my friends: Chloe and Mariam.  They both sum it up in a way that is so nice, different and apt. Both very informative and powerful. 

Thank you Chloe:

“Last night I lost the world and gained the Universe.” – C. Joybell C.

This Equinox is between two eclipses which makes for flexibility and creativity as a path forwards. It is extremely important to release old patterns to leave space for a rebirthing to happen. Weeding, spring cleaning and preparation for new growth are traditional themes at this time of year. They are more important than ever emotionally and mentally as well as physically, together with  reinforcing our spiritual practice.

By letting go of old patterns, we have the opportunity to find our true path which has the potential to be more fulfilling than we can imagine. Resisting this opportunity will be more uncomfortable than ever as home truths are not going to go away, and, the feeling of being stuck, unhappy and in chaos will persist. We need to look at several key issues. Is our choice of career right and are we happy? Are we content with our lives generally? If not, what can we do differently? Are we still holding on to negative beliefs? Are we forgiving? Are we being true to our values? Am I using my “voice”?

Creativity in all its forms can lead us to clarity and our “voice” without forcing results. There is a combination of an adventurous spirit, risk taking and being assertive available to us. Because Spring can be seductive and dreamy, there is an element of have fun but stay grounded, especially as this is such an important turning point collectively and individually. A sense of humour over timing is vital as we deal with passion and spontaneity on one hand and being aware of how we effect others on the other.

Some of the above is very familiar but we are running out of time. Finding a balance between lightness of spirit and boundaries can be challenging together with that sense of watching our back. Meditation on our feet can support us, together with being part of a community. More than anything, enjoy the journey …      Chloe   http://www.tiegsolus.moonfruit.com/

Thank you Marian Rose:

….and now we’re flowing into the season of Spring (the Wood Element), I find myself in a wooden house surrounded by trees!    …. Liver, the Yin organ of the Wood Element.

The Wood Element embodies the qualities of Spring, which is all about rebirth, blossoming, rejuvenation.  We’ve moved from Winter’s deep contracting Yin energy into Spring’s expansion and newly flourishing Yang energy.  I’m loving the way the first wild flowers are rising out of the earth, the first buds of the orange blossom flowering, and the jasmine perfuming the air.

So, the Wood Element in nature is all about smoothly flowing, upward rising ,expansive, sensual, creative energy.    When we human earth walkers are in alignment, our life force energy or (Qi) flows smoothly through channels (or meridians) keeping us physically healthy but also keeping our emotions flowing smoothly….  The Liver in Chinese Medicine is the vital Yin organ whose main responsibility is to keep all the cogs oiled, aka keep the Qi flowing.  Its a bit like the clever system of water channels, called asequia’s that they use here in this area of Spain to ensure that every last tree and crop receives enough water.   But if the little drainage channels get clogged up with fallen oranges, olive twigs and general foliage, the water gets stuck and so the trees can’t be nourished and grow.    Just as in our beautiful bodies, if the Liver gets clogged up, Qi gets stuck in our channels and it can’t move the Blood to nourish the organs, nor can it help us to move through stagnant emotions.

The Liver plays a vital role for women too, in that it helps us create abundant menstrual Blood, and helps it to flow regularly and comfortably.  The Liver helps us also to flow easily through the different stages of our female life cycle.  Healthy Liver energy contributes to a vibrant, creative menopause or ‘Second Spring’, as it is so beautifully and wisely called in Chinese Medicine.  A happy Wood element promotes the flow of sexual energy, keeping it transforming, vital and sensual.  ….the Spring Equinox, a special time of equal light and darkness, so of perfectly balanced yang and yin.  Marian Rose, newsletter to me.  taotreasures@gmail.com

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Invocation Blessing for the Eclipse Full Moon in Libra

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Channelled by Toks Beverley Coker for the Eclipse Full Moon on 23 March 2016

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Quotes

  1. Fall in love with people who inspire you to love yourself.
  2. Fall in love with yourself.
  3. Sometimes your heart needs more time to accept what your mind already knows.
  4. Sometimes you mind needs more time to accept what your heart already knows.
  5. “If one wishes to secure happiness and peace for all people, one cannot help but turn one’s attention to social change. Transforming this troubled saha world in which we live into the Land of Tranquil Light( a Buddha land) is the true essence of ‘establishing the correct teaching for the peace of the land” (Daisaku Ikeda: AOL, April 2016, pg. 12)
  6. Be the change that you wish to see in the world. Gandhi

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Homework

The theme of today’s homework is:  If you want to change anything in your physical world you have to work on all the other areas of your life – your emotional, mental and spiritual world. Here are some exercises that will help you.

  1. How would your life change if you got what you really wanted?  Write it down.  Close your eyes and really feel it, see it, taste it, hear it, speak it, touch it, smell it.
  2. What would you have to change so you could get what you wanted in your life?
  3. What are the reasons you give yourself for being out of balance?
  4. What do I need to hear when I am feeling confused? alone? undecided? angry? not trusted? not trusting? 
  5. What makes me stand out? 
  6. TO BE HAPPY:  What do I need to know today?  What do I need to do today?  What do I need to think today?  What do I need to see today?  What do I need to say today?  What do I need to touch today?  What do I need to hear today? What do I need to feel today?
  7. How can you change your financial future? One way is visualising having more money.  Another is monitoring and being mindful how you practically spend your money. Do you need to buy lunch and coffee every day? All this adds up to thousands of pound in the year!  Do you really need to buy and pay for this item, car, house, etc.?  Would it be better to save the money for something you truly want?  What do you really want?  What is the root cause of your lack of money?
  8. How can you change your intimate relationship in the future?  One way is to have discussions and communicate with each other.  Another is to say empowering and loving works to each other on a daily basis.  What is the root cause of your lack of an intimate relationship?
  9. How can you change your spiritual future?  One way is to attend the Alchemical Moon Gatherings with Toks.  Another is to start looking at the spiritual value each action you do, brings to your life.  Get clear on your spiritual goals and what they will mean to you. What is the root cause of your lack of a spiritual life?
  10. Are you willing to do what it takes to get what you want?  To do so you need to first know what you want and why you want it.  Here is an example: So if you know you want a new house, you have to know why you want it. List 10 reasons why you want a new house:
      1. I will have more space: to move around in, to store my things in, to have extra bedrooms so people can spend the night, to have space for my office, an area to play and relax, a working space for workshops.
      2. Inside Rooms:  an office, a master bedroom with ensuite bathroom/toilet, a meditation space for groups, a healing room, a study area, a library area, a storage space, a laundry room, 
      3. Outside space:  a garden, two garages, a lawn and picnic area, a pool
      4. Other things you want to add:
  11. After we celebrate all our blooming and blossoming and what we have achieved this ECLIPSE FULL MOON, we have to prepare ourselves for more learning and we have to look at different ways of doing things.  We need to learn new things to change e.g. look at different new ways to make more profit or have a healthier relationship.  What do you need to learn? 
  12. It is very important to find yourself with this Full Moon and in your personal reflections.  You can call back your fragmented parts home to you.  You can break ties that bind in a negative way.  You can clear out the old out-dated way of being.  You clear out the baggage and make room for a new way of being, a new way of learning and a new way of doing things.  If something does not work stop doing it.  Learn another way to do it.  What do you need to let go of so you can create space for something more?
  13. I believe that change comes from the invisible and from the visible.  In our Moon Gatherings we see the visible and invisible changes in the people.  Some loose weight. Some develop more self confidence.  Some get married.  Some feel strong enough to leave their jobs and / or partner.  Some move on to create an empire. These hidden and revealed aspects help to change people.  If they believe life is difficult life is difficult.  If they believe life is easy then life is easy. BELIEVE IN WHAT YOU WANT.

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Message from Toks Coker

Hello my friends,  I hope you enjoyed this blog post. Drop me a line and let me know how you found it. Below I share information about more of my work.  Thank you for taking the time to read it and clicking on the links. Thank you for sharing it too.  Cheers Toks xxx

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  4. Moon Meditation https://tokscoker.wordpress.com/the-moon-meditation/

  5. Working with Crystals   https://tokscoker.wordpress.com/working-with-crystals/

  6. I have posted 4 short one minute videos on YouTube. They are: Time Between Eclipses, Impossible Moments, the Colour Red, Numerology Workshops

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Teaching and Group Work

Every New Moon and Full Moon I teach, invoke and share knowledge gained with the you and the world. Click on this link to find all the dates and put them in your diary:https://tokscoker.wordpress.com/diary-dates/

The Gathering of People who come to my meditation, classes and workshops are supportive, warm and real.  There are many Benefits of Meditation.  Click here to read more: Harvard Neuroscientist on Meditation

I give free Distant Healing / Remote Viewing on the day of the New Moon and Full Moon to those who ask. Put all your HEALING REQUESTS on my Hands of Light Healing Fan Page.  You can leave a comment there anytime you want; and you can post under the healing posts your feelings and thoughts.  All posts should be respectful, and loving to everyone reading the healing page.  Thank you for your kind consideration and for LIKING   http://www.facebook.com/handsoflighthealing.

As a qualified teacher and practitioner I teach Indian Head Massage, Crystal Healing, Spiritual Healing and Happiness.  I teach EFT, Positive EFT, and Emotrance.  I will be teaching some aspects of the Tao philosophy, Fusion of the Five Elements: Forming the Pakuas and Pearl, Cosmic Fusion: Fusion of the Eight Forces, Fusion of the Eight Psychic Channels: Opening and Sealing Psychics Channels. Iron Shirt Chi Kung 1: Rooting Cosmic Internal Energy, Cosmic Sounds: Sounds that Heal, Cosmic Inner Smile: Smiling Heals the Body, Tan Tien Chi Kung: Empty Force, Perineum Power and the Second Brain, Cosmic Orbit: Connect the Cosmos to Inner Orbit, Lesser Kan and Li: Enlightenment and Birth of the Immortal Fetus, Tao Yin and Healing Love.

1:1 Alchemical Sessions

I offer private and confidential 1:1 sessions that cover a variety of topics and life issues.  I do various types of intuitive spiritual readings and channelling in my work.  I am qualified in various modalities (e.g. Life Coaching, Spiritual Coaching, Time Line Therapy, NLP, Healing Massage and more) so I am capable of serving with integrity and power.  Allow me to help you and support you.

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Feel free to pass on my work, and share my posts.  If you use any of my work, or my pictures, please give me the credit due by referencing me and links. Thank you.

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With Celestial Blessings and Love Toks xxxxxxx

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Multi-Cultural Celebrations December 2011

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We are celebrating many multi-cultural winter celebrations in London and around the world.

  1. HAPPY HANUKKAH – Tuesday 20 December 2011 (Jewish festival that lasts for 8 days)
  2. HAPPY WINTER SOLSTICE – Thursday 22 December 2011 (Pagan festival that lasts for 12 days)  happy winter solstice  LINK IN MEDITATION 7pm-8pm  £11.93  http://wintersolsticemeditation.eventbrite.co.uk/ The Winter Solstice is a time to go within and reflect deeply. It is the deepest and most reflective time. It is the time of greatest darkness with the longest night and shortest day. It has the shortest light and the longest shadow! For some it is the beginning and the ending of a calendar: an astronomical New Year. We decide what we want (like looking in a book of good fortune) and place our order, then later we plant (Spring Equinox) and harvest (Autumn Equinox).
  3. How about this Two-Hour Live Virtual Event: Conscious Change Movements Uniting to Co-Create a Global Shift on the Winter Solstice, December 22, 2011 • 12pm PST / 3pm EST / 8pm GMT   http://birth2012synergy.com/
  4. HAPPY NEWMOON IN CAPRICORN and XMAS EVE – Saturday 24 December 2011
    LINK IN MEDITATION  7pm-8pm £11.93     http://newmoonmeditationincapricorn.eventbrite.co.uk/
  5. HAPPY XMAS DAY – Sunday 25 December 2011 (Christian festival that lasts for 12 holy nights)
  6. HAPPY NEW YEAR 2012 – Sunday 1 January 2012

Buddha Consciousness

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CHRISTMAS TREE at Trafalgar Square, London (from Thursday 1.12.11 – Wednesday 5.1.12)

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HANUKKAH LIGHTS at Trafalgar Square, London (from Tuesday 20.12.11 – Wednesday 28.12.11

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HOMEWORK: choose to do one or two of these if you can

  1. Honour the 12 Holy Nights starting on Christmas day 25.12.11.  Read ‘Twelve Holy Nights by Dr Yubraj Sharma’ posted on my blog (above).  Thank you Yubraj.

  2. Honour the 8 Days of Hanukkah by lighting the Monorah starting 22.12.11. The Menorah holds 9 candles – one for each night, plus one in the middle to light the others. One candle is added and lit from right to left, each night of the festival.

  3. Symbolically light a candle – one a day – for 8 days – to say thank you for all your blessings – before the end of 2011.

  4. Symbolically light a candle – one a day – for 12 days – to take you through to 2012.

  5. Go to Trafalgar Square to see the Christmas tree and Hanukkah lights.

  6. Do 12 nurturing acts to 12 different people.

                               Mother of Compassionnurturing healing energy of mother and childPRAYING FOR WORLD CONSCIOUSNESS

Compliments of the Season

WITH SPIRITUAL SACRED BLESSINGS FROM HANDS OF LIGHT

LOVE LIGHT LAUGHTER TOKS XXXXX

The Goddess Venus with Taurus Energy

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Taurus is RULED BY Venus – planet of love, romance, sensual energy [touch, senses, feelings, sensuous tastes, pleasures, seeing].  Venus likes to nurture, to be nurtured, to love, to be loved. Ruled by VENUS – sharing, exchange, give and take, partnerships, marriage, relationships, fine things, art, drama, music, courtship, romance, love, sensual, beauty, service, home, passionate, earthy, pleasures, indulging, food, sharing, playful, intimate bodies, happy bodies, united bodies, sex, sexual, sensuous touch / taste/ smell / words / sight.  Lots of feelings with Venus and the Bull! Feelings of worth.  Feelings of value.  Feelings of flowing love through us.  Wanting things to belong to us.  Be part of a ‘family’, ‘community’, ‘environment’ and ‘life’.  What is your passion – your desire, your lust, your urge, your sexual need, your emotional desire this NewMoon in Taurus?  Express it with words, thoughts and deeds.  As the Buddhists say – EARTHLY DESIRES ARE ENLIGHTENMENT.

Penumbral Lunar Eclipse – 7th July 2009

PAST PRESENT AND FUTURE

So much has happened:  the Triple conjunction of Jupiter, Chiron and Neptune in the sign of Aquarius, the Summer Solstice [Sunday June 21] and the next day; within 12 hours!!! The NewMoon in Cancer [Monday 22 June}.  NOW tomorrow we have the FULLMOON IN CAPRICORN

The next two future dates in your diary are:  Next NewMoon in Cancer Total Solar Eclipse a BLUE NEWMOON i.e. 2nd NewMoon in Cancer Wednesday 22 July 2009 at 3.35am and Next FullMoon in Aquarius Thursday 6 August 2009 at 1.55am

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